Oh Baby: Hayes Moon

Hayes Moon

Over a week past his due date, and in a way that I least expected, our baby boy finally arrived on October 2nd at 9:35pm. Hayes Moon Mehlhoff.

After he was born, we went back and forth on his name while we were in the hospital…and when we left he still didn’t have a name. Despite the dirty looks from the discharge nurse.

But a few days later we decided that he looked like a Hayes (loosely named after a neighborhood in San Francisco that we love…plus we just liked the name). And his middle name, Moon, is to honor our dog, Luna (Luna means moon), who passed away last year and was a really important part of our family before this little guy came along. Here are a bunch of other names that were on our shortlist.

Hayes Moon

So far, he’s a pretty chill little guy. We’re still learning his quirks, like how he grunts and makes funny noises when he eats, how he very much hates having his diaper changed, how at least 50% of the time singing to him will stop his cries, etc, etc.

And we’re still adjusting to what life is like with a newborn, which is admittedly MUCH more difficult than I was expecting. But every day is a little better than the last and we’re getting to a good place now that he’s two weeks old and we have him on more of a schedule. That said, if you have any tips for how to get through the newborn phase, I’m all ears! Please share because Jeff and I are just winging it over here.

Hayes Moon

Hayes Moon

Hayes Moon

Hayes Moon

Hayes Moon

Also, wanted to mention… You won’t see a big change around here while I take a little bit more time to figure out the whole parenthood thing.

In terms of content, it will be business as usual. I have a bunch of things lined up and ready to share already – two new makeovers for the 12 rooms in 12 months series, a handful of fall recipes, decor DIYs, and some fun Halloween stuff. So be sure to check back in for all of that. And I’ll be popping in on Instagram as usual too.

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Now, that’s what called Perfection. Keep up!!

Nippon

Hey, mama! Your call for suggestions rang out to me because I’m the mama of a not-quite 2-year-old and I very well remember breastfeeding and not sleeping a wink. It’s always a journey of highs and challenges as I’m learning.

First – you two must go so easy on yourselves! You are a goddess as you already grew and birthed a human! And your fella is pulling his weight, too. Hurray for both of you! Remember that the first year is the season for take-out, sweats & yoga pants, binge-watching shows, playing games, and calling friends and family to help.

Self-care is soooo hard to find minute for, but I found a lot of joy and relief in a hot shower, soaking my body in essential oils and epsom salt, and taking my babe for walks in the forest/beach. Oh, and a huge favorite mug of hot coffee or herbal tea. Bodies take awhile to heal, so as much love as you can give yourself – DO! Hint to everyone that a massage gift certificate would be a great Cmas gift.

Wardrobe – jeggings or stretchy jeans with a truly fantastic piece (leather jacket, wool cardigan, sailor’s peacoat…) will make you feel more put together, but still comfy as hell. Tank tops are so easy for breastfeeding and then you can sleep in your clothes, too. Am I right? And bright lipstick with sunglasses or a hat. Done.

I also highly recommend going out to eat and to the movies during the first five months. It becomes a lot more work to go once the baby is really alert and crawling. And also it is an easy way to get out of the house!

If you don’t have a friend gang or sibling with kids, then look for a crew. Try play meet-ups like indoor play centers, the library, mama yoga, etc. It is such a relief to be honest about the whole process with other parents. And watch female comedians talk about their experiences. If you’re having struggles that seem unbelievably hard, check out, “This Isn’t What I Expected.” An honest and fresh read.

Above all, know that you are doing your best. And those nights when babe won’t stop crying or you feel like you’ve lost parts of yourself, remember that. There will be plenty of sweet baby coos and laughs and incredible moments just around the bend.

Congratulations on your new love. Hugs

– Bb

bb

congratulations to you! hayes is darling. love his name – and love hayes valley. one of my favorite neighborhoods in the city. enjoy this special time. it is absolutely exhausting but also so fulfilling. xoxo

sara a

Huge congrats! He is absolutely gorgeous!

It is hard! And we ALL just wing it the first time round. Some better than others. I was one of the “others”. I had really big babies (4,2kgs) despite my small build. I think this is why they didn’t sleep much during the day. But I did manage to get them both to sleep through the night very well, and had the nighttime routine “perfected” with my second…

I set a precedent from the start for nighttime behavior – that it’s not a time to play, chat and be awake. I kept things SUPER quiet and as dark as possible for nighttime feeds and diaper changes (after 7pm and before 6am). This meant no eye contact, no bouncing & playing & absolutely no talking or chatting, mostly ssshhh, ssshhh, ssshhh for any crying. I learned what her nighttime noises were when she started waking for a feed so that I could feed her without her really waking up at all. By this point, it made no sense to change her diaper if it was just wet (which wasn’t very much, using disposable diapers at that time). Hope that helps.

Above all, trust your own instincts and gut feel. You’ve got this!

Brenda Olwagen

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Congratulations on the birth of Hayes Moon! What a beautiful name for a beautiful boy!
You’re a good mom and dad if you’re doing your best. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not.
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Karlijn

When my son was born, I found out that sometimes when he was half-crying, showing discontent, wrapping him snugly in a blanket seemed to give him a sense of security.

Brenda

Congratulations on the birth of Hayes Moon! I love his name. He’s a beautiful boy <3

Susan Barone
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