Its not always easy to start a business, build a blog readership, or quit your desk job to pursue your hand sewn line of womens clothing full-time. In fact, its almost always quite challenging at times. So, I started a series that tells it like it is”¦the good, the bad, and the completely “˜Girl, I cant believe you went there.” Secrets to success that have been learned along the way. This is where we left off last week”¦
Sometimes we get so wound up in what other people will think of what we do, or if this piece will sell more than that one, or be retweeted 100+ times, that we stop trusting our own voice and start relying on other people’s opinions for the answers. This is not the secret to success.
Let me start with a quick story… A while back, I made something that I was really pleased with. The photos were exactly what I imagined; the styling was just what I pictured. Everything. I posted it, super excited – thinking that readers would love it and it would get shared a lot. But to my surprise, the response was basically crickets. Just a few comments and a (tiny) sprinkling of shares – no cheering crowd, no pat on the back.
I was pretty bummed about it, actually. And a little confused too.
But the next day, after a good night’s sleep, I was reminded of something. I didn’t need someone else’s approval to decide that what I had been working on was ‘worthy’ or ‘good’.
I could decide that on my own. And so I did.
Even if no one was looking, reading, or responding, I would still be making things, stock-piling washi tape, and buying scissors ‘because they look cool in photos’ as opposed to just cutting really well.
I don’t need other people to give me a pat on the back to be deemed ‘a success’. And neither do you. Which brings me to success rule #3…
Don’t wait for someone else to dictate your future. This is your journey. You lead the way.
If you’re still not convinced, watch this talk from Jonathan Adler about being true to your vision and keeping other people’s opinions out of your creative process (found via Grace Bonney). His message is one that you might need to hear today.
*image by Sean Sutherland (similar print by Sean here)